There is an oft-told statement in the recovery community that runs along the lines that “you can’t unravel ten years of hardcore substance abuse in a couple of weeks”. Newcomers to recovery programmes are heard to bemoan the fact that they “have been clean for two weeks now, and my spouse/children/parents/friends STILL don’t trust me”…
Recovery is a process.
It takes time.
It takes patience.
It takes everything you’ve got.
Like it or not, a commitment to recovery means that you’re in for the longish haul. Just as it takes your loved ones some time to regain their trust in the solidity of your recovery programme – this time, which is probably the latest of a number of attempts – it takes you, yourself, some time to develop positive lifestyle habits and routines, to turn around those negative, twisted and unproductive behaviours you’ve so desperately come to rely on. With this in mind, HouseOnCedar Addiction Recovery Centre’s core programme lies in longer-term treatments within a disciplined, secure and familiar environment where there are peers who will understand the crazy stuff you got up to in the day. Like flying off the handle at a colleague at work for something so trivial it is, in retrospect, embarrassing. Then, too, you will learn how to positively resolve situations like these with the guidance of counselling, mentorship and support of people who have not only been there but have seen patterns like these repeated time after time by people navigating the turbulent waters of recovery.
You will learn – with the wisdom that only time and repeated mistakes allows – to develop coping and management skills that will render you effective in reacting positively to tense or stressful situations, to recognize triggers before they become the elephant in the room and to replace blame and resentment with acceptance and serenity.
The biological dependence factor is not something that can be changed. You will be part of the 10% or 15%, or – as the South African Department of Health claims – the 35% of the population that practices “risk substance use behaviours” whose metabolisms react much less effectively to substance stimulation. However, the unmanageability, the dishonest, the selfishness and self-seeking, low self-esteem countered with a hugely overblown ego, sense of entitlement and victimization by the core sabotaging emotion of fear, plain and simple – THAT can be changed.
So whilst – biologically, you have to be vigilant for the rest of your life – the chaos and unmanageability can feasibility become a thing of the past, and you will be able to present yourself to the human race, become a productive, liked and cared-for member of society.
As you can imagine, this is not a quick and simple process. HouseOnCedar offers fast-track rehabilitation but prefers to integrate it with longer-term step-down programmes and halfway/sober living programmes so that, when you leave, you have a rock-solid recovery foundation and “rock bottoms are a thing of the past.